Oh, the holidays are a time of year that conjures up many different feelings in each one of us. Whether you have the holiday joy or absolutely dread this time of year, you are not alone. Many of us cannot fully be ourselves at this time of year; we are not welcome to come home as our true selves, or we’ve decided, for our emotional and physical wellbeing, it’s best not to be around our relatives who vote to eliminate our rights.
What might seem like a selfish, millennial, or Gen Z way of thinking, but spending time with family, for whatever reason, might not be the way you want to spend time this holiday season.
Was it a particularly taxing year for you, or are you too overstimulated by the season to be around people? If you are unable to make it home for the holidays this season, try one (if not all) of the options below.
Develop a New Hobby
Alright, I will say it—the month of December is a bit of a wash for most companies (except retail—been there, done that). Everyone has the holidays on their mind, so it is the perfect time to gear up for the new year and start a new hobby. Do you love to draw or paint? Why not head to a local art store to buy a sketchbook and pencils and let your mind wander?
Celebrate with your Chosen Family
Just because you cannot spend time with your blood family does not mean you cannot see your selected family. This could include your work friends, your neighbor, or a close partner—it does not matter!
Catch Up with Long Distance Friends
One thing I have noticed about the holidays is that this is the time of year when you catch up with old friends. Whether from grade school, high school, or even college, those who moved farther away, this is the time to devote to them and see how their lives have been, and vice versa. And it is the perfect excuse for a FaceTime date with AirPlay.
Have a Movie Marathon
By far, one of my personal favorites is when I have my alone time to watch some of my favorite movies that just do something wonderful for me—like chicken noodle soup, but for the soul. Lord of the Rings? A classic. Funny Girl? Bring the tissues. Grab a bag of your favorite snack and a new holiday blanket you bought yourself, set up your pad as your own personal in-home theater, and you are set.
Pull a “Christmas with the Kranks”
If the current state of the world is not enough for you, then the holidays will undoubtedly push you over the edge—and yes, it is giving Krank—but cancel all your holiday plans and travel. If you look carefully, flights are typically cheaper on certain holidays and days because, historically, no one is traveling. So why not take this chance to jet off to Europe to ring in the New Year?
Take a Walk
What helps me to be centered and calm? It is a nice, leisurely walk outside, with no endpoint in sight. It is cliche, but it is a wonderful way to connect with nature, relieve stress, and stay healthy. Listen to an audiobook or podcast, make a to-go coffee, and you will be set for a few hours, at least!
Celebrate with Community Members
Do you ever get the feeling that you are, at times, the only person in the world to ever go through what you are going through? Think again—in Pittsburgh, there are a few local LGBTQIA+ haunts that offer solace during the holidays. Brewers and more offer a special place for those in need of just a place to go, a hot meal to have, and a little holiday joy.
Order Takeout
I am Italian (okay, like 25%), but I am a staunch believer that food does help solve a lot of problems and can help you self-regulate. A memory of the holidays that always sticks with me is that of “A Christmas Story,” when Ralphie’s parents ruin their dinner and take the family for Chinese takeout. Over a hot meal, it seems like all the problems and troubles of the day melt away, and they can enjoy being present.
Reflect, Meditate
With a season that has a never-ending rush, buzz, and electric feel, it is essential to stay grounded. Taking time during the day to meditate, express gratitude, and reflect on the past year is a solid way to spend the day. What are you hoping to achieve in the new year? What did you accomplish in the past year? What are ways you can show yourself grace and gratitude?
Volunteer
An immensely fashionable way to spend the holiday is to give back where you can. Many organizations all over the city offer services on the same day as many holidays to those who are less fortunate. Volunteering at a food bank or at a local organization to help give back will be a sure way for you to brighten someone’s day, along with giving you just a little bit of cheer yourself.
Hugh Lane Wellness is looking for volunteers to help with their Harvest Friendsgiving program. Sign up to volunteer here.
